Better to Ask “How Can I Help?” than “What’s in It for Me?”

So many conversations start with “What’s in it for me?”.

There is a quieter, more powerful question we can ask:

“How can I help?”

This simple shift changes everything.

Instead of measuring opportunities by immediate gain, we look for ways to add value.

And here’s the paradox. Those who give more than they take often end up getting more in return.

There’s an old principle in business and life:

If you do more than you are paid to do, in time you will be paid more for what you do.

It’s not just about money. It’s about trust, reputation, and relationships.

When you go the extra mile, people notice. They remember.

And opportunities have a way of finding those who put Service ahead of Self-interest.

Think about the people who have made the biggest impact on your life.

Were they calculating what they could get from you?

Or were they simply interested in helping?

Chances are, they were givers.

People whose default question was “How can I help?”

This mindset doesn’t mean you ignore your own needs.

It simply means you lead with value, generosity, and a willingness to serve.

Over time, this approach builds credibility and respect. The kind that money can’t buy.

So the next time an opportunity comes along, resist the reflex to ask, “What’s in it for me?” Instead, try asking, “How can I help?”

It may feel like a small change.

But it’s one that can open doors, strengthen relationships, and lead to greater rewards.

Far more than you expected.

Because when you do more than you are paid to do, life has a way of ensuring you are rewarded.

Not just for what you do, but for who you become.

With very best wishes,

Chris Wilkinson.

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